I am a mother of three young children, 7, 5 & 2. As the day goes by I’m often left with few things crossed off my to do list. Today was no exception. Will (2) woke up at 4:30, and although I didn’t get him up until 6:00 a.m., I don’t think I slept much past that. There were assignment books to be signed, homework to be gathered, pizza money to be turned in, and library books to be returned.
Tantrums were easy come, hard to go for my early riser. So getting the errands done was not pleasant. There were cell phone calls from the special event silent auction I’m volunteering to run. By the time I picked up the older two and got them to gymnastics, I was wiped out. And there was dinner to make.
I’m sure that this is a familiar experience for other parents of young children, but actually it is not unlike the pace and frequent interruptions of many nonprofit employees and executives. Sometimes better planning can decrease the chaos in the day, and sometimes it is better to remember that being in control is just an illusion. Far too infrequently, my husband and I discuss how we think our children are developing and what character traits and behaviors we want to encourage and discourage. But often, the days go by without awareness of the big picture.
I’ve been reading the 2001 classic “Good to Great” by Jim Collins, as a group with a board that I serve on. One of the key discoveries of the book is that companies that made the leap to great companies figured out what their “one big thing” was. He calls it a Hedgehog Concept.
In the essay “The Hedgehog and the Fox”, Isaiah Berin devided the world into hedgehogs and foxes. The fox is a cunning creature and knows many things, but the hedgehog knows one big thing.
Hedgehogs know how to roll in a ball and protect itself with its porcupine-like quills. Hedgehogs are small, slower creatures that have a simple life but know how to stay safe. “Hedgehogs see what is essential and ignore all the rest.” Collins says that if your business or nonprofit or family life can figure out what your Hedgehog Concept is, you will become great. The intersection of three things–what you are deeply passionate about; what you can be the best in the world at; and what drives your economic engine– is your hedgehog concept.
This concept of focus is not new. Peter Drucker also says you need to focus on where your competence, commitment, and opportunity meet, and that your stop-doing list should be larger than your to do list.
In these difficult times it is even more essential to spend the energy discerning your Hedgehog Concept and focusing your energies and attentions there. It is so easy to get caught up in keeping all the plates spinning at once. But we may need to take some of the plates down. Collins says the way to find your hedgehog concept is to:
Form a “Council”– a group of the right people who participate in dialogue and debate guided by the three circles. This group must ask the right questions, engage in vigorous debate, make decisions, autopsy the results, and learn.
I need to think more about what our hedgehog concept is with raising children, but I know that I care much more deeply about their character development than about how well decorated their room is. Now if I can just figure out how to dodge some of that popcorn…